Do you ever feel like you are talking, but the other person just isn’t listening? They are looking at you and nodding their head… but as soon as you finish, they interject with their perspective, story or thoughts that seem to be disconnected from what you were just talking about?
Are you ever the person, patiently waiting in the middle of a conversation, until you can jump in and share your perspective, only to realize at the end of the discussion that you really don’t remember what the other person was saying?
Think about your last conversation. How much of what the other person said do you actually remember? If not… you are pretty normal.
Researchers at the University of Missouri recently reported that we spend between most of our waking hours in some form of communication. The breakdown of how we engage in communication is fascinating. “Many of us spend 70 to 80 percent of our waking hours in some form of communication. Of that time, we spend about 9 percent writing, 16 percent reading, 30 percent speaking, and 45 percent listening. Studies also confirm that most of us are poor and inefficient listeners” (University of Missouri). Almost half of our communication is spent listening and most of us are “poor and inefficient.”
The best conversationalist know how to listen. And when we learn to listen really well, two things occur… first we learn more, and second people tend to like us more. When these two things happen together, our ability to influence will skyrocket.
If you are a great listener… I need your help. Do you have suggestions on how to be a great listener? Leave a comment below, I would love to hear your thoughts.