If you want to get One Grip Higher today, don’t forget to breathe!

A few years ago I had the incredible opportunity to go snorkeling in the caribbean.  A few times I even dove down to check out the coral up close.  It didn’t take long before my lungs told me to return to the surface to breathe. Its too bad our lungs don’t remind us to breath when we are asked tough questions.

If you are like me, when you are asked a tough question, you launch into the answer, sharing your opinion with vigor. (If your not like that leave a comment below and let me know how you do it!)

Today I sat in a meeting with a wide range of people from all walks of life.  I was asked a tough question.  I offered a quick answer based on the first thing that came to mind. Unfortunately, my answer, while not wrong, did not take into account that the person who asked the question was coming at it from a completely different perspective then me.  We have different jobs, backgrounds and values. Fortunately, a friend chimed in and said, “Jason, I think what she is trying to say is…”

I listened to the words… but totally missed the actual question.  I was so focused on my answer that I did not hear what was not being said!  Most human interaction can only truly be understood when we understand the underling meanings and unspoken cues.

Action Step: Breathe before you answer! The next time you are asked a tough question, pause before you answer. Breathe. Ask, what is not being said? Then answer.

The wait time will ensure your answer connects more effectively.  If we connect more effectively our influence increases.  If our influence increases, we are One Grip Higher.

Don’t forget to breathe…

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